Relatii: Ce-au mai descoperit psihologii in ultima vreme

Despre mimetism, la ce mai e buna o ceasca cu cafea si cat timp pot tine femeile un secret.

Nicolas Gueguen de la  Universite de Bretagne-Sud a descoperit ca femeile care folosesc mimetismul (cu sensul de imitarea subtila a gesturilor si a cuvintelor folosite de un partener de discutie) sunt considerate de barbati mai atractive din punct de vedere sexual. Dupa cum relateaza BPS (The British Psychological Society) Research Digest:

In the mimicking condition, the female assistants were instructed to mimic their partner’s utterances approximately five times during a five-minute date and to mimic his body language five times. For example, if a date said “You really do this?”, the woman would respond “Yes I really do this” in the mimicry condition, but say only “Yes” in the non-mimicry condition. Similarly, if a man scratched his face, a mimicking assistant was instructed to wait two to three seconds and then scratch her face.

Ati priceput fetelor ce aveti de facut ?

In NLP se folosesc de multa vreme astfel de tehnici, mergandu-se pana la sincronizarea respiratiei cu a celui cu care discutam. Aici il puteti vedea pe Derren Brown cum face asta.

In al doilea studiu, Lawrence Williams si John Bargh le-au dat participantilor la un experiment cate o cana cu cafea pe care sa o tina in mana  si au descoperit ca temperatura cafelei a afectat modul in care participantii au judecat caracterul unei persoane: cei care au avut cafea fierbinte au judecat-o ca fiind o persoana calda si generoasa pe cand cei carora li s-a dat cafeaua rece, au caracterizat persoana exact invers decat ceilalti participanti.

Taken altogether the findings support the idea that the way we think about relations, whether between people or shapes, is grounded in, and therefore affected by, temperature. It suggests that if you want to encourage a team of people to bond, you should make sure everyone is feeling warm.

E clar, trebuie de-acum sa umblu cu termosul dupa mine .

In sfarsit, ultimul studiu, a descoperit un lucru pe care il stim toti barbatii: femeile nu pot sa tina secrete. Intr-un studiu comandat de Wines of Chile in Marea Britanie, la care au fost chestionate 3000 de femei cu varste cuprinse intre 18 si 65 de ani, 83 % dintre femei s-au auto-caracterizat “completely trustworthy”(100% demne de incredere), in vreme ce 75% au spus ca niciodata nu ar ” trada o confidenta”. Cu toate astea:

The secret will burn a hole in her conscience, leaving her helpless to resist the temptation to tell somebody. And before she even realises what she’s done, it will be out. Then will come all those pleadings not to tell anybody else. Which the recipient will swear to – only to break the vow herself in the next 47 hours.

Asta imi aduce aminte de o vorba: “unei femei spune-i intotdeauna adevarul… apoi fugi”. Ai 47 de ore pana afla toata lumea .